UHNW & HNW Women: When do you TRUST? Wondering why your relationships do not last

UHNW and HNW Women
When do you TRUST? Wondering why your relationships do not last?
(turn that question around to 'Why my relationships last' and you receive one set of answers)

What is it about you being a High Net Worth Woman and having to deal with the angst of a partner that objects to your affluence and power with others and how others are influencing you in your good ship Relationship?

That you are flourishing better in business; professionally, socially and personally, than your partner and this is placing a strain on the dynamics of your relationship as a couple.

There were times when you had wanted to apologise for things that you did, or did not do, because you believed at the time that your decision was right. You are the affluent one, you have your own money, you make the decisions for yourself. You are at times blunt, forceful or just plain undiplomatic as to how you get your views across. Sometimes you just do not have time for niceties. Whatever blurts out, blurts out. Remember that if you do that, so can your partner. There will probably be a tipping point where the true thoughts and feelings of your partner bubble to the surface. Where they become blunt, forceful and undiplomatic, just as you. Following your example. As their behaviour holds a mirror up to you, reflecting how you are.

Trusting what you say in a heated exchange of feelings.

One of the things that most people with affluence can sense are the needs, wants and desires of others who have less affluence. It is almost like mind-reading. That you can foresee what it is that they want to ask you. There is always something that they need from you. Your affluence attracts people like this. So why not drop the relationship for someone else who also has affluence and does not want your money for their own personal gain. How easy is it to spot someone like that? What you do not want to do is to go from one sinking ship to another sinking ship. You want a safe haven relationship. To be anchored, yet have the freedom to sail away as and when you want to without any form of repercussion. No verbal put downs. No emotional and physical suppression. Such actions can merely add to things turning inside out.

There is no point in reading self help books if you are not going to act upon the support methods that they detail.

There is no point in saying “Sorry,” or “I love you” if you do not mean it, or that the words feel somehow awkward or strange to say to someone close to you.

There is no point in embarking upon the journey of a relationship if you are not committed to it being a place of happiness and well-being.

There is no point in dreaming how the relationship can be, when the reality is starkly something else and shall never be as the dream that you have for yourself.

There is no point in being blissfully happy when you are forcing yourself to show happiness in the relationship.

Your partner trusts you to deliver to their lifestyle, yet is s/he delivering for you?

Eventually you jump from one relationship to the next. More quantity, less quality. Perhaps this is your preferred way for you to relinquish the fears of being all alone with your luxurious lifestyle. Or, you stay in a loveless relationship with only physical gratification. Or, your greatest dread is being in a relationship where your partner is having a relationship with someone else that they care for more than you, because of this you refuse to let your partner go as you need someone to be at home for you. You need someone to attend social functions with. You need someone significant; in your eyes, to form a bond with. You just need someone to be there for you, instead of being in an empty, lifeless, luxurious home. For someone to grow old with and be your companion; a four legged friend just will not suffice. For your life to represent something through being with someone. It is not easy for such relationships as this to last. Especially if the authority, context and direction of the relationship is not agreed upon by you and your partner. That you are both in absolute agreement, alignment and unison on this ship called Relationship.

SO, when do you begin to TRUST as you are wondering why your relationships do not last? Why YOUR good ship Relationship sinks?

What about the relationship with your own Self? The most important relationship in your life. How is that going?

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